Felt Finger Puppets

Summer means we have been loosed from the work load of school texts, etc., but what to do with our time now? Well, here's one thing that Bri found to keep her hands busy for a few hours, and the finished result was these adorable finger puppets!  They were all crafted from simple felt purchased in bulk at Wal-Mart.  Bri found many ideas for what to make on Pinterest, and got busy.  The frog is my favorite!

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Quoteworthy

"Oh, how sweet are the fruits of Christ's mediation to the faith of His saints! He that can find no relief in mercy, pardon, grace, acceptation with God, holiness, sanctification, etc, is an utter stranger to these things... that are prepared for believers.  -John Owen

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Mommy's Break (Daddy's Perspective)

Re-entry into normal home life after last week's Gospel Coalition's Women's Conference was definitely easier than it would have been in years past when all my children were small. In those days, returning home meant being immediately bombarded by the all-consuming needs of little children who had been without mommy for a few days.  I would often be in prayer on the drive home for God to prepare me to step back into my world where I needed to die to self moment-by-moment so that I could love and serve my kids.  Thinking about the differences now with older children reminded me of something that my husband Brian wrote a few years back while I was away on a 5 day trip to visit my parents.  It is one of the sweetest things that I have ever read, and it still makes me cry. Re-posting it below, and feeling very blessed to be the wife and mommy at my house....
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Learning Love From A Can of Green Beans
by Brian Shealy


As I sit at the dinner table tonight I know that there is a half empty can of green beans sitting on the kitchen counter that needs to be put away. I cannot quite see it from where I sit, but I know that it is probably still there. Of course there is no guarantee because you can never tell what will happen in this house. I am aware of the green bean can because it has taunted me all day long. I am not quite sure when it appeared or who opened it, who knows maybe I even opened it, but I have seen it several times today in passing and I have remembered it from a distance on numerous occasions.

You might be saying, "Why don't you just get up and put it away?" Well, the reason is that I am certain that between my departure from the table and my arrival at the kitchen there would be some interruption and a string of circumstances that would have my next conscious thought arise in some place like the back yard, garage, street, or head in the refrigerator wondering, "What am I doing here?" or "What was I looking for?"

No, I am not a total lunatic, nor do I have Alzheimer's, I have just been keeping seven of my children for the past five days while my wife is in Alabama visiting her parents. The green bean can has special significance for me for two reasons. First, it represents my own inadequacy and inability to accomplish all that I am called to do in this task. Second, because it teaches me how to love my wife in a more understanding way.

You see, I remember coming home from work one day a few months ago and seeing a half empty can of green beans sitting on the counter. As we were putting kids to bed I passed through the kitchen and mentioned to my wife the presence of the can and asked how long it has been out and whether it should still be put away. She said, "I think it has been there since lunchtime." I remember thinking, "I wonder why she didn't put it away," but I didn't say anything. I knew that she was extremely busy and decided that I would just be understanding and take care of it myself. I thought I understood then, but now I really do understand.

I serve as the Dean of a seminary where I also teach language classes. Last Wednesday I taught & administered seminary education from 7:30 AM to 5:40 PM. Then I took my son to basketball practice and headed home to teach my Bible study. After the study we put our children to bed and then I headed to the SF airport to send my wife to Alabama. I finally arrived home about 1:30 AM. So, needless to say, I started this whole adventure very tired. But that is okay. It dawned on me this week that my wife does this all the time. She is often up early and retires late, constantly working. I was simply feeling what she does regularly.

Then it started. I entered the adventure with the naive thought that I would still accomplish my work from home while homeschooling and taking care of the children. I soon relinquished that dream. Very quickly the realization that this was more than a full time endeavor seized me. Now, five days later as I prepare to pick up my dear wife from the airport I have come to understand her very much better. In 1 Peter 3:7 it says for husbands to live with their wives in an understanding way. This is my endeavor by the power of the Spirit and the grace of Christ.

Walking a mile in someone else's shoes definitely goes a long way to help you understand them and learn how to love them better (being patient and kind). This week I have experienced the types of burdens my dear wife carries - the weight she feels of being concerned with homeschooling seven children . . . are they learning? . . . am I doing a good job . . . is CPS going to show up and take them away . . . am I doing what is the wisest? - the concern over their character . . . reading to them, disciplining, discussing -- holding them accountable for their responsibilities and chores, three meals a day . . . are they eating well . . . giving out medication . . . making sure the guinea pig and the fish don't die . . . the cooking . . . the cleaning . . . getting them to swim team and basketball practice, changing diapers (7 times a day), getting them up, putting them to bed, overseeing their hygiene (brushing teeth, doing hair, getting dressed, taking baths, wearing deodorant), managing the mountains of laundry, the washing, the drying, the sorting, the folding, the putting away . . . living through the very simple constant demands --the questions, the requests, the social agenda of each child, the whining, the rebellion, the hugs and kisses, the hurts, bumps, and bruises . . . being the nurse . . . going to buy necessary clothes, supplies, food, etc. . . . cleaning up spills and bathroom accidents . . . getting them up and ready for church on time, doing pew training, . . . And this list could go on and on. I found that often I experienced unexplained fears and surges of emotion.

While I was at home I didn't even have to concern myself with homeschooling the youngest school age children because she had finished their work up through my days with them. I also did not have to be concerned with pleasing and serving a husband as she does.

Besides all of these things my wife also somehow does discipleship, ministers to people in various ways, answers e-mails, writes a blog, engages in photography, graciously handles interruptions, and TAKES CARE OF ME all while maintaining her spiritual devotion to Christ.

In the midst of my adventure many things went undone. The first thing that went out the window was any time or energy spent on myself. I didn't even think about shaving for four days. It was hard to find time to eat, get dressed or go to the bathroom. The newspapers piled up in the driveway, I cleaned no bathrooms, did not clean out the fridge, did very little yard work, and no extra things around the house. and there is the weight of looking at the things you cannot accomplish like putting away a green bean can. So it was easy to see how some things just never get done.

Let me say here, to exonerate my children, that they were very helpful throughout the five days. They have been taught to do many things, but even then there is the weight of overseeing their work in their responsibilities.

After all of this, it would be an understatement to say that I marvel at how well my wife takes care of all of her charge. She truly is an excellent wife far more valuable than rubies. I feel that many daughters have done nobly, but she excels them all. I will praise her to her face, before the children, and in the gates. But I marvel even more at what Christ can do in a life. I marvel at His grace, because having experienced a small slice of her life I marvel that she would not only be able to do this and do it well all the time, but that it is her choice to do this and she loves it and would choose nothing else. She serves her Lord in this way every day with joy.

I think I understand my wife better and her needs. I need to be constantly vigilant in remembering to pray for my dear wife, to encourage her, to give her rest and breaks, to give her adult conversation, to rescue her out of her burdens, to treat her to dates, to find ways to help her, to support her with the children, to demand nothing, to treat her with extra special graciousness, gentleness, tenderness, and affection.

One last thought that occurred to me during this process was how difficult it must be to be a single parent. My heart is broken to think of doing this all without a partner. Again, how amazing the grace of our loving Lord must be to enable single parents to persevere and even have great joy in raising children without other help. Lord, make us all more understanding and compassionate toward each other. Teach us how to minister to each other.

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All Complaining Silenced

This quote from Thomas Brooks (1608–1680), an English non-conformist Puritan preacher and author, just reminded me that I have every reason to be happy in Christ today.  I have been rescued from the hell that my sins deserved, so any suffering my Savior chooses for me, must be received gratefully with that in mind.

"Christian! Your present afflictions are not great if compared with the afflictions and torments of many of the damned, who, when they were in this world, never sinned at so high a rate as you have done! There are many now in hell who never sinned against such clear light as you have done, nor against such special light as you have done, nor against such precious mercies as you have done!  Certainly, there are many now a-roaring in everlasting burnings who never sinned as you have done!

Ah, Christian! How can you seriously think on these things and not lay your hand upon your mouth, even when you are under the greatest temporal sufferings? Your sins have been far greater than many of those who are now in hell, and your "great" afflictions are but a fleabite compared to theirs! Therefore, hush your murmuring and be silent before the Lord!"     -Thomas Brooks

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He Is There

Psalm 139:1-18 assures me that there is a great and glorious God who made me. He knows everything about me, and is constantly present with me. In fact, I could never get away from Him, even if I wanted to. Actually, the last thing I would ever want to do is be away from Him. This same God has done everything possible to love me from eternity past, to the day my mother gave birth to me, to the day Christ called me and caused me to be born a second time, to the day that I leave this physical world, and enter His presence to worship Him for all eternity. He has written all of my days in His book, planning perfectly a life for me to bring Himself maximum glory.  As I read the beautiful words recorded in this chapter, I feel my heart begin to relax, my troubles cease to dominate my mind, and unexplained peace flows in.

"O Lord, You have searched me and known me.
You know when I sit down and when I rise up;
You understand my thought from afar.
You scrutinize my path and my lying down,
And are intimately acquainted with all my ways.

Even before there is a word on my tongue,
Behold, O Lord, You know it all.
You have enclosed me behind and before,
And laid Your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me;
It is too high, I cannot attain to it.

Where can I go from Your Spirit?
Or where can I flee from Your presence?
If I ascend to heaven, You are there;
If I make my bed in Sheol, behold, You are there.
If I take the wings of the dawn,
If I dwell in the remotest part of the sea,
Even there Your hand will lead me,
And Your right hand will lay hold of me.

If I say, “Surely the darkness will overwhelm me,
And the light around me will be night,”
Even the darkness is not dark to You,
And the night is as bright as the day.
Darkness and light are alike to You.

For You formed my inward parts;
You wove me in my mother’s womb.
I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Wonderful are Your works,
And my soul knows it very well.

My frame was not hidden from You,
When I was made in secret,
And skillfully wrought in the depths of the earth;
Your eyes have seen my unformed substance;
And in Your book were all written
The days that were ordained for me,
When as yet there was not one of them.

How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God!
How vast is the sum of them!
If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand.
When I awake, I am still with You."

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TGCWC12: This Is Our God

This past weekend was rich, encouraging, and memorable, as I was blessed to attend The Gospel Coalition Women's Conference in Orlando, Florida.  It was rainy and overcast for most of the weekend, but that did not put a damper on the gospel-focused teaching, the soul-stirring worship music, and the inevitable fellowship that happens when over 3,000 women who love Jesus assemble in one place. TGC brought together a long list of well-known pastors and Bible teachers to help the ladies who came to grow in awe and worship of our great God. And from the feedback that I've seen, I would say...mission accomplished!

What I will remember most from the weekend:

*The overwhelming feeling of standing with all those ladies, led by the music of Keith and Kristin Getty, to sing with our whole hearts to the Lord.  The words to all of their songs are deep with meaning, and moved us to worship. I especially loved it when Kristin Getty stepped to the microphone to read a passage of scripture between songs. Her Northern Irish accent was unmistakable, especially when she pronounced the word  "awake" as "uh-wek".  :- )

*Sitting on the very front row for the pre-conference sermon from John Piper called The Search for Joy and the Supremacy of God in the Gospel. In his trademark passionate manner, Piper outlined 7 obstacles that the blood of Jesus obliterates to clear the way for us to come to Him and fully enjoy, savor, and treasure the person and work of Jesus Christ. I have greatly appreciated his books over the years, so it was a treat to finally hear him preach in person.  There were many wonderful speakers there for the weekend, but Piper's two sessions were my favorite.

*The sight of hundreds of human bodies flowing out of the ginormous ballroom where the plenary sessions were held, and up the escalators in one fluid motion like a river, when it was lunch time...

*The exhortation from one of Don Carson's sermons to rejoice when counted worthy to suffer for the name of Jesus, because it is truly a privilege.

*Listening to the collective wisdom of three pastors wives who were interviewed in a focus gathering session. They talked about the joys and challenges of marriage to a pastor, and the blessings of the full-time ministry life, serving Christ and His church. Very near and dear to my heart, and I was encouraged by the positive, hopeful manner in which these ladies spoke of their ministry experiences.

*The genuineness of Carolyn Mahaney words as she described a dear family friend and her faithful testimony of trusting God through painful trials. Her talk was listed in our program as The Snare of Compare, and she subtitled it at the start of her session as "What to do about things you can do nothing about". She walked us through John 21, where Christ gives Peter the double exhortation to follow him, though that passage also includes an allusion to Peter's eventual death by crucifixion, and a rebuke to not compare his life to what is chosen for his fellow disciple John. "What is that to you?"  I went away thankful for the reminder that every unwanted circumstance is assigned to us by God himself and it is all an opportunity to bring Him glory.

*Finally, I will remember the sweet fellowship with the ladies there.  Four of my friends from our former church in California met me there, and that reunion was lovely! It was wonderful to catch up, share prayer requests, eat chocolate, and be encouraged together. But it also made me so happy to meet women in my Christian family that I didn't know before.  There is a mysterious instant bond when two believers meet, and I  am so looking forward to cultivating new friendships.

It was an encouraging, stimulating weekend, and I am already beginning to think toward the next TGCWC. I wonder who I can bring with me next time. :-D

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Quoteworthy

"It is the happy duty of all Christians to help everyone sing of Jesus from the heart. For all the earth is commanded to sing."  - John Piper

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Happy Father's Day, Mr. Wonderful!

A holiday like Father's Day always leaves me feeling a bit frustrated in my attempt to honor my husband, Brian. There are so many things I could try to write to express how grateful I am for the ways God has used him in my life and in the lives of our children.  His impact for good has been so great, and my words seem to just fall short.  But, that won't stop me from trying.

Above all, I am grateful to God for Brian's gracious and patient love for our children.  It is quite convicting to live with at times, actually, but I am so thankful that Brian has modeled love in this way. I have seen him  many times patiently listen to one of our children, though a long day had already left him exhausted, to truly find out their need and how to best help them.  He has taken time to show that he cares more about loving them than pleasing himself, or simply not being bothered by the necessary work to find resolution.  And while I know he would remind me that he hasn't done this perfectly, God's grace has prevailed and produced a sweet relationship between him and all of our children, as a result.  I am so thankful that Brian has tried to keep his mind focused on the undeserved love and forgiveness of Christ in his own life, and that has made him humble and gracious toward others, especially toward our children.  He has loved them sacrificially and generously, and I have been thankful for this example, especially at times when I was worn out and needed to be reminded that we must love our children whether we think they deserve it at any given moment or not.

Happy Father's Day, Mr. Wonderful! I am so thankful for you!

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Re-Post: Drowning

As someone who may potentially own a swimming pool soon, I found this article very interesting.

http://mariovittone.com/2010/05/154/

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Daily Spurgeon

Great perspective!  Look up to Jesus, and rejoice!

"The Lord hath done great things for us, whereof we are glad."—Psalm 126:3

"Some Christians are sadly prone to look on the dark side of everything, and to dwell more upon what they have gone through than upon what God has done for them. Ask for their impression of the Christian life, and they will describe their continual conflicts, their deep afflictions, their sad adversities, and the sinfulness of their hearts, yet with scarcely any allusion to the mercy and help which God has vouchsafed them. But a Christian whose soul is in a healthy state, will come forward joyously, and say, "I will speak, not about myself, but to the honour of my God. He hath brought me up out of an horrible pit, and out of the miry clay, and set my feet upon a rock, and established my goings: and He hath put a new song in my mouth, even praise unto our God. The Lord hath done great things for me, whereof I am glad."

Such an abstract of experience as this is the very best that any child of God can present. It is true that we endure trials, but it is just as true that we are delivered out of them. It is true that we have our corruptions, and mournfully do we know this, but it is quite as true that we have an all-sufficient Saviour, who overcomes these corruptions, and delivers us from their dominion.

In looking back, it would be wrong to deny that we have been in the Slough of Despond, and have crept along the Valley of Humiliation, but it would be equally wicked to forget that we have been through them safely and profitably; we have not remained in them, thanks to our Almighty Helper and Leader, who has brought us "out into a wealthy place." The deeper our troubles, the louder our thanks to God, who has led us through all, and preserved us until now. Our griefs cannot mar the melody of our praise, we reckon them to be the bass part of our life's song, "He hath done great things for us, whereof we are glad." -Charles Spurgeon

More where that came from here:
http://www.spurgeon.org/daily.htm

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Fight For a Servant's Heart

It is so easy to be selfish. In fact, it is like my children sometimes say to me when confronted about some particular sin, "I didn't mean to. I didn't even try to!" That is a very accurate description of most of our selfishness. We may not consciously mean to think of ourselves to the neglect of others. We probably didn't expend any energy in trying to be selfish last time that we were guilty of it. It is such a part of our nature that we do it without effort, and with great ease. But just set out to live unselfishly and you will find that it will not happen without prayer, dependence upon the Lord, and a focused mind, filled with the Word of God.

One of my favorite verses is from 1 Corinthians 5:15, and says, "...and He died for all that they who live should no longer live for themselves, but for Him who died and rose again on their behalf." Christ says that we are to stop living for ourselves, and instead make living for Him the pursuit of our lives. His example should be all the motivation that we need to strive to obey Him. He set aside His glory with the Father to come to Earth and secure salvation for us through his death on the cross! Isn't that a glorious thought to ponder!

So, what does that look like fleshed out in real life? Well, for me, I know that it means praying for the strength to keep serving even after I've met need after need all day long. Just having people around assaults our desire to please ourselves. That's why caring for a houseful of children is such a sanctifying endeavor. They have constant needs! And Mommy is the one called to meet them!

And then beyond that, at the end of the day when my husband comes home, I know it is God's desire that I serve him, too. It is a privilege and a blessing that I will miss if my attitude is, "Sorry, I've clocked out for the day, 'cause I've been serving since I got up!"

I am painfully aware that to have an unselfish attitude requires God's work in my heart, because it is not naturally in me. Thank God for His Holy Spirit that He has sent to live in the hearts of those who are in Christ. He enables us to do the works that bring Him glory. Serving others surely pleases Him.

This is my earnest prayer for my kids, that as adults they will have the heart of a servant. That they will see themselves as slaves to Christ, looking for ways to live for His glory by meeting the needs of those around them.

God must do this work in the lives of our children, too. We can train them, set the example for them, exhort them to do it, but God must change them, giving them eyes to see beyond their own needs and desires to others. We must commit to pray for them until we see the Lord do this.

Some days I really have to fight to live unselfishly. But it does help me when I remember who I am serving....the Lord Jesus Christ, who shed His own blood to purchase us and make us His. I am not my own.

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How Did You Do That?

After observing the lives of some of my children once, someone said to me, “Your kids love the Lord.  How did you make them do that?”

The question almost made me laugh, because if I have learned anything over my years of motherhood, it is that God is the only one that can make children love Him.  He is the only one that can take someone with a sinful, unbelieving heart, transfer them from the kingdom of darkness into light, and awaken them to love, worship, and serve Jesus Christ. I am so thankful that He not only CAN do that, but He actually DELIGHTS to do that. 

So my answer to the question, “How did you do that?” is “I didn’t, but God can!” At the same time, I am aware that God’s normal way of saving people is through the influence and witness of average people, as they share the Gospel in love, and help other believers grow. It is not uncommon to hear testimonies of how God used parents in the salvation and growth of their children. Even though parents are sinners, too, and we have all failed in one way or another in this role of parenting, God is gracious, and He uses parents anyway.

When someone asks me a question like that, what they usually really mean is, “What can I do, and what should I be doing to impact my children for Christ? And how does God use godly parents to help their children know and love and live to serve Jesus Christ?” That was the question in my heart when I first started out with one little baby. Looking back now from the vantage point of having grown children, here’s what I would say to those questions…

Pray for change that results in love.  

The saving, sanctifying work of Christ in my life has impacted my children for good as it has produced a love that flows in at least three directions: love for Jesus Christ, love for my husband, and love for my children. 

On the day that Christ saved me there was an initial life transformation, but that has become a continuing transformation for many years now. God is so amazing in His power that He can take sinful, selfish, unworthy, and often unwilling people, transform them, and use them to carry out His amazing plans in the lives of others.  So, when God needed a mother to raise eight Shealy children, He could start with me. That way, in the end, He gets all the credit for any good that was produced in the lives of my kids, and as people see this, they should say, “Wow! Look what God can do!”

I. Love Jesus Christ

First, pray for change that results in love for Christ. It would seem obvious that if you want your children to love the Lord, they need to first see that modeled in your own life, but many Christian mothers miss this.  If loving God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength is your prayer, then you can be sure that there are things that must change for that to become a growing reality in your life. At the moment of your salvation, you were given the power to die to self and live to God. Moment by moment we need to keep making decisions that reflect that we belong to Jesus and are now living for His glory, not our own.

How does this look on a normal day? 

Fix your eyes on Jesus. What do you think of Jesus?  Is He your prize, your treasure, the One who gives you satisfaction, peace, stability, hope and joy? Hebrews 12:1-3 describes us as runners who are to run with our eyes fixed firmly on our prize…Jesus Christ Himself. He is our everything. The more you learn of Him, the more you will see Him as the loving, merciful Savior who has rescued you from your sin and is worthy of all your love and worship, obedience and service. This will change how you think, how you act, and what you say, even when your days of caring for little children are difficult. Life will be less about you and your circumstances, good or bad. More and more, it will be about living to bring glory to your Savior.  As we are transformed by the Gospel, we will be able to echo what John the Baptist said about Jesus, “He must increase, I must decrease.”

Be daily transformed by the Gospel. To live daily with my eyes fixed on Jesus has required daily repentance because I am proud and selfish. God has used my children in amazing ways to show me just how sinful I really am!!!  But the more I focus on Jesus, who He is and all He has done for me, it makes me want to turn away from my pride and selfishness.  The Gospel can and should make us humble and grateful. It reminds me that all I deserved was condemnation and wrath, but I have instead been granted forgiveness and the righteousness of Christ before a holy God.  This helps to kill my sinful, selfish “entitlement” mentality and have a right perspective.

Live for Him with hope and joy. The transformation that Christ has brought should change the demeanor of your life. You will be able to smile at the future, like the Proverbs 31 woman, because you are confident in God’s great power, and you belong to Him.  It will remind you that since you have Jesus, you need nothing else to be happy in this life and hopeful for the life to come.

You will be able to reflect a heart that can be unselfish and do the unseen, thankless, yet necessary, jobs that no one else wants to do, because you are doing it for Jesus. The more you learn of His power, wisdom, and goodness, the more your heart will reflect contentment, because you will know that He chooses what is best for you on any given day. The more you grow in love for Jesus Christ, the more you will want to live for what He says is important. You will want to be part of leading little ones to Him, and building His kingdom, starting with your own children as your greatest missionary opportunity.  

As you are daily transformed into this kind of woman who loves Jesus Christ, your children will have a living example of the power of the Gospel right before their eyes.  They will know what it means to follow Jesus, not just because of what you have said to them, but by how you have lived as they have watched.

II.   Love your Husband

Second, pray for change that results in love for your husband.  One way God intended for the Gospel to be preached to the world is through the vehicle of marriage. The transforming power of the Gospel is most conspicuously put on display when two sinners can live together in marriage and actually love each other.  The primary audience of this witness is the children who are produced by such a marriage. I believe that great damage has been done to the testimony of the Gospel by parents who tell their children to love Christ, but can’t show by their own marriage that their love for Christ empowered and motivated them to love each other.

Often people use Ephesians 5:22-33 as a how-to for having a happy marriage.  But don’t miss the fact that this chapter starts and ends with the Gospel. Verse 1 calls us to imitate God in the sacrificial love He has shown us in Christ, and at the end of the chapter, (after giving marriage as an example of a relationship where the Gospel should have an impact,) Paul says, “I am speaking with reference to Christ and the Church.”

In his book Gospel-Powered Parenting, William Farley powerfully makes this point:

“ …human marriage exists to preach the gospel.  It exists to illustrate the fruit that should follow the preaching of the gospel in the church. …What is our marriage telling them (our children) about Christ and his bride? They see it all. They hear our fights.  They absorb our attitudes. They know who or what really sits on the throne of our lives. They watch how we handle resentment.  They hear the way we talk to each other.  They know when we hear the Sunday sermon and apply it.  They also know when we ignore it. …The message that our marriage preaches either repels or attracts our children. God wants your child to watch your marriage and think, ‘I want a marriage like that, and I want the God that produced it.’ “

Marriage is the great overlooked tool for the evangelism of children. Once again the transforming power of the Gospel makes it possible for two sinners to love each other in this way in their marriage. When we sin and fail, the Gospel will draw us back to Christ for forgiveness, and will send us to each other in humility to confess our sins and be restored. Our children need to witness this process between their parents when there is sin and conflict, and it can have a great impact on their lives for Christ.

My children have mentioned little things that stood out to them that Brian and I did to show love to each other. When he would return home from work at the end of the day, everything would come screeching to a halt as I would run to the front door to get the first kiss and hug. Sometimes the kids would even engage me in a playful race, and laugh as I fought to be in Daddy’s arms first.  They noticed that we held hands in the front seat, or embraced as we took a walk together. One memorable quote from Lindsay, at about age 4 as she watched us show affection, was “keep up the good kissing!” It built security in their lives that we would go to so much trouble to get away for dates, and overnight trips on our anniversary. Sometimes our children would visit a home that had an air of underlying stress and conflict between the parents, and then they would come home and thank us for loving each other.

III. Love Your Children

Finally, pray for change that results in love for your children.

It is interesting to note that the one thing said to older women instructing younger women about parenting, in Titus 2:3-5, is simply “…encourage them to …love their children.” 

As I have grown in Christ, my list for why I should love my children has grown, too.

I must love them because:

1. God made them, and they are an amazing display of His creative power. (Psalm 139)

2. God loves them, and He shows grace to them whether they are saved or unsaved. (John 3:16)

3. God uses them for my sanctification. (Boy, does He ever!) (Romans 8:28)

4. God wants me to tell them about Him, and the great salvation He offers in Jesus. (Psalm 78, Matthew 28:18-20)

5. God has loved me, and saved me so that I would love others. (1 John 4)

How I should love my children is clearly outlined in the Scriptures, too.

Colossians 3:12-14 has been a foundational passage that God has used to teach me how to love my children over the years:

“So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. Beyond all these things, put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity.”

Two character qualities from that list especially stand out and are emphasized also in 1 Corinthians 13:4 “Love is patient; love is kind.”

Be patient.

This sounds so simple, yet we all know that it isn’t always easy. Our own sinful desires would have us lash out when under all the provocations that happen in a day of caring for little (and big) kids. But 1 Cor. 13:4 teaches us that we must choose, especially at those provoking moments, to be patient. Patience is the restraining, passive side of love. It calls us to put up with the irritating actions of others, to endure them, to persevere and not give up on the offenders. Especially when they don’t deserve it, God calls you to demonstrate through your warm, welcoming, accepting demeanor toward your kids that you still love them.  And as you do this, pray and look for opportunities to tell your children that you do this because that is how Christ has loved you.  He has been patient with you. He has endured all the sin you committed against Him, loving and dying for you, even when you were His enemy! His patient treatment toward you should motivate you to extend that to others, especially to your children.

Striving to love patiently has opened up many opportunities to talk to my kids about the Gospel. In fact, the times that I have failed to do this have been used by the Lord too, as I have had to ask their forgiveness.

Be kind.

Kindness is the active side of love and goes beyond simply not returning evil to those provoking you. Instead it drives us to do tangible, practical deeds of love, especially when they are undeserved.  Discipline must be carried out, but even that can be done in a spirit of humility, compassion, and gentleness. And when you follow it with kindness, your children will get a message, loud and clear, that you haven’t given up on them. It extends restoration, and forgiveness, and will help to establish harmony in our homes. We must die to our desire to only love our children when they deserve it.  Jesus Christ daily lavishes your life with gifts of undeserved kindness. He took your punishment and instead gave you His righteous standing before a Holy God. And here we are back at the Gospel again.  Stay there. Live there, moment to moment with your children. Let the gracious, merciful love that Christ has shown to you transform you and flow out to your kids.  Then they will know that Jesus is alive, and that what He has done for you is real and life-transforming.

So, this is my story of how Christ has been working in my life over many years, but He isn't done by any means!  I’m asking God to continue the life transformation that He started on the day that He saved me so that I will “grow in grace and in the knowledge of my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.”

I’m asking Him to make that transformation evident in the way I love Jesus Christ, live my life for Him, and find in Him my satisfaction, joy, hope, and purpose.

I’m asking Him to change me day by day so that I will love my husband, as a devoted, godly wife.

I’m asking the Lord to keep making me more like Christ so that I will love my children, as a humble, gracious mother.

And finally, I’m asking the Lord to keep using me in the lives of my children in the days and years to come for His glory.  He can do it!

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Next Up: House Hunting

Well,  the school year is finished and we are in full swing with ministry here. The next thing that needs to happen is finding a more permanent home.  I must say that even the thought of that seems a bit overwhelming, especially since we have never owned a home, and even looking for one is going to require time, attention, and work.  I don't mind, though and now that we are on summer break from our studies, I can give my focused attention to it.

You can be part of our house hunt by praying for some specific things:

* a home that is well-suited for lots of hospitality (large living spaces, and lots of parking for visitors)
*at least 5 bedrooms
*a large yard would be awesome
*and a home that is centrally located to the church and other places we frequent would be nice.

Thanks for praying for us!

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Done!

18th year of homeschool accomplished! To God be the glory; great things He has done!

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